9 Steps for Self Improvement...

1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it-
If you want to do some work and your heart says or indicate that its wrong, or you feel that it’s wrong than don’t do that work.

2. Say exactly what you mean-
Some people are not very clear with their thoughts and what they are saying. So you must take care or your words that what you want to convey to the other person.

3. Don’t be a people pleaser-
I personally know some people who always please their boss or power person to get close relation with them. It’s not bad to have pleasing personality, but it should be according to correct time and situation not always.

4. Trust your instincts-
If you want to do something and your instincts say that you can do it than go ahead and do it.

5. Never speak badly about yourself-
This is the most common habit of almost all the people, sometimes even I speak badly about myself, but the truth is we don’t have to speak bad about our self, it will create an unconscious in our mind and we will do what we are thinking about our self.

6. Never give up on your dreams-
I was a poor student in my schooling, and I always want to be at least an average, if not good a student. I tried hard, and now I can say that I have a good understanding about myself which shows that we can improve our self if we have trust in our dreams.

7. Don’t be afraid to say no-
According to me this is the point which is useful in every field or our life, from personal to professional work. If you learn to say no in some situation, than it’s good for you. Suppose you have to submit your monthly report to your manager and if your team leader says that please help me or do my work also, than in this condition you must say no if you don’t have time.

8. Be kind to yourself-
Always try to be kind for yourself. It’s only you who knows that what you are doing and how you are doing. So be positive and polite with yourself and you will see that your productivity is increasing day by day.

9. Let go of what you can’t control-
Sometimes what happen, we know that because of “me” we have lost something or we have lost something, but the real situation was in not your control. So in that condition don’t think much about that and don’t bring negativity in your mind. Forget whatever happens because there are some things which are not in our control.

Trust, Honesty and Loyalty...

We always says that Honesty is the best and the most expensive gift you can give to someone. When you become honest to someone, it brings trust. It makes you trustworthy, which is priceless.

Always remember friends, trust cannot be purchased, learned or acquired. It has to be earned with the time.

Most of the time I often see, so many people break their relationship because of trust. They believe that their partner is not honest with them.

Trust based on honesty is the foundation of strong and bonding relationships which will surely lead you towards an Honest & HappyLife because if you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.

 I have so many friends who were in love and now because of their professional work or study they are far away from their partner. Some of the friends are still with their partner, but most of the friends ruined their relationship.

When I asked to one of my friend why you are not with her/him.?

The reply I got is- she/he is living so far from me, and we can’t live together with this much distance.

Well I don’t know the real reason why they have broken their relationship, but one thing I know that distance doesn’t ruin a relationship but DOUBTS DO.

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.

The most expensive thing in the world is trust .It can take years to earn & just a matter of seconds to lose. If there comes a time to choose between Money & Trust Choose TRUST….
because Money can be earned back, but not trust…

I also suggest as a human being that Don’t trust too much , Don’t love too much and Don’t hope too much Because that “too much”  is very dangerous for us. In Sanskrit we have one quote “Ati Sarvtra Varjite” that means everything which is too much is not good because it can hurt you so much. Be aware have balanced attachment and keep expectations and desire in control. Everything which is   “too much” leads to pain if they do not happen….

Dear Mother...

Dear Mother,

You don't have to fix my situation

or change the people around me,

But please change me according to the situation.

Instead of giving me what I want,

Give me what you feel is best for me.

There is no need to fix my all problems,

because when I am surrounded by them,

Than only I will realize my need for You.

When the pain inside is almost too much,

for me to have, don't take all the pain away

but comfort me in your arms and remind me,

how much you love me.

When people disappoint me, than remind me,

that it's only you that I can truly depend.

When my situation looks dark's 

& seems like no way to out,

help me to focus on the work

 that's taking place inside of me

instead of the reality of my surroundings.

Don't change my situation every time I call,

but use my situation as a tool

 to change the inside of me...

Restarts of life...

In my old post I asked to you all that “What will you do” if you face that situation. I got so many replies saying that it will surely happen once in all the humans’ life. We must have to give our 100% in relationship than only it will be a pure love relation I am purely agreed with all of you. Our life is like this only. We always have two sides. One side always has joy, laughter, happiness, Success, fun and other side tears, sadness and hurt. The thing about our life I feel that you always going to hurt. You are going to have emotional nights and cry yourself to sleep for hours. You will always suffer some kind of loss. But you will also have those moments where you heal. Those moments are the best. You feel like you smile for the first time again. You feel like you are alive again. And your life is just kind of restarts and its the truth of our life . So don’t be always negative, a bright side is also waiting for you, to show you the happiness and love..

The Law Of Mirrors...

I have so many friends who always say that he is like this or she is like this. But If I will show you exactly the maximum quality is same in him or her. Whatever we think about any other person we think according to our personalityand perception. We see only those things which we know well or in other word which are near to us. When people insult you, don’t take offense, don’t take it personally, but do listen their words. 

They are telling you how they see the world, and they are telling you the exact negative qualities that they possess. The law of mirrors says that, one can only see what is in them, regardless if it is what is actually present in reality or not.  Release the need to defend or try to explain to them that you are not being whatever insult they have thrown at you, but evaluate instead all of these insult, and realize that this is who they are. Then decide if a person with those qualities is one who you would like in your life or not…